I am biased against this because I used to be the smart kid but I do not find this to be funny at all. When I “finally” failed a test, all of my classmates except for my one best friend were making a huge deal out of it. They acted as though it was something unthinkable. They were looking at me as if I had grown another head. It made me feel like I wasn’t allowed to get a bad grade. I had to be perfect, or else I was weird. In the end, I was so stressed because of the pressure I even considered commiting suicide. It wasn’t pressure from my parents, they were okay with it. It was from my classmates who couldn’t grasp the fact I was only human.
So please, I’m begging you, if you have this smart classmate and they fail a test, do NOT laugh at them, do NOT insult them, do NOT make a big deal out of it. We’re all humans, we all make mistakes—don’t take this entitlement away from us.
#no but please guys #that caption is so fucking important #that is pretty much my academic career in a nutshell #if you get an A on something #that’s what’s expected of you #there’s nothing special about that #but if you get anything less #even if those you care about don’t say anything to your face about it #you’ve still been conditioned (mostly by your own mind and everyone around you thinking you’re a genius) #to think that anything less than perfect is not anywhere near acceptable #for an example: my last statistics test was worth 25 points and had two extra credit points in addition #and when I looked at my grade and saw I got a 25 on it #my first thought was that ‘why didn’t I get those last two points? what did I do wrong?’ #it’s a fucked up psychology that has caused me so much stress for god knows how long #i’ve made myself sick over grades#half of my hair actually fell out from stress in my junior year of high school #but hey#at least i’ve got that perfect transcript #right? #it’s not fucking worth it #if i could do it again i’d gladly take b’s if it means i can sleep through the night #and not stress about whether that 90% is good enough #and just #'smart people' are people too okay #i’ve conditioned myself and freaked myself out about grades so much that anything less than an a is NOT okay #this isn’t a good mentality to have no matter what anyone thinks#'you're so smart laura!' #'you'll get into any school you want to laura!' #'I wish I had your study habits laura!' #'don't worry about test - I'm sure you aced it!'#well as it turns out if I DIDN’T ace it i’ll probably be THIS close to a mental breakdwn for the rest of the day #so basically what i’m getting at here #in this long convoluted gut-spilling #is that you really fucking shouldn’t point out to a ‘smart kid’ when they don’t do as well as they ually do #because they’re probably already beating themselves up about it to the point of a nervous breakdown #and you’re really not fucking helping #by mocking them like that
thank you, you brave soldiers
there’s a girl in my math class who thought I was perfect at everything, and when she asked my about my English grade, she was shocked that I had a B and she looked so disappointed too, and it made me feel absolutely horrible that I didn’t get an A, as if I owed it to her to get good grades all the time and that I had to be a perfect person.
the two comments above said this pretty, well, but again, please, please, PLEASE don’t point it out or make a big deal if the smart kid didn’t get everything perfect. chances are, that person is already stressed enough trying to maintain good grades already, and rubbing a failure in their face is just cruel. it’s like if you bake cookies for your friends everyday and they admire you so much for it, but then one day you’re too busy or the cookies burned or something, and they ask you why you didn’t make cookies and why you aren’t 100% consistent in making cookies for them.
if the smart person makes a mistake, it’s nothing- everyone makes mistakes. they’re already going above and beyond, so doing average or not always being perfect shouldn’t be some crime.